Reply To: Need advice to teach Dhamma to grandparents

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Amin
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Hello.
It’s a good idea to teach others the Dhamma.
But, before that, we should check and see if they are interested.

I do live in an Islamic country, and meditation or Buddha dhamma is new to them.
A few years ago when I started to do sitting meditation or walking, my mother thought I was possessed by a spirit, or something similar.
So, it’s a good idea to not act weirdly.
I think back then I was doing the walking meditation (the one you walk so slowly that takes almost a minute to move a few steps)

• There are a few types of people that I have noticed when it comes to talking about dhamma.

° The first type is usually not receptive to dhamma. If you talk too much about it they get annoyed, and give you that look. (The shut up look)
If you continue they may insult the Buddha dhamma, it’s best to step back, in this case, it can be bad kamma for them.
(I think they have strong uccheda ditthi).
They are not interested in any form of spiritual practice.

° The second type, which most of the older generation in my country fall under this category.
They are the believers. My mother is part of this group, they do their prayers on time and keep the basic morality, and they do engage in meritorious actions.
When it comes to teaching them the dhamma you need to be “sneaky” about it.
Their mindset is that the Ghoran is the greatest and Muhammad is foremost.
If you say anything opposite to that they will not listen.
But, you can show them videos like out-of-body experiences and things like that they do accept them.
As long as what you say doesn’t go beyond their understanding they will listen even for hours. But if you go too deep they may take it as a nuisance.
It’s easier to just encourage them to do more merits than to give them a dhamma talk. I did try they got sleepy, and they had that look of wanting to run away!
( They do have a strong sassata ditthi)

° The third type, most of the younger generation falls under this category.
It’s easier to talk to and teach the Dhamma. But, still have to do a little test.
Like asking them if they are interested in things like out-of-body experiences.
Or see if they are interested in knowing how the mind works.
My two younger brothers fall under this category.
So, it’s not difficult to talk to or to teach them the dhamma. And yes they do understand it, and they don’t fall sleep.
But the problem is they don’t practice much. There are too many distractions, social media, friends, movies etc…
They do try to change, but after a while, they go back to their old habits.
All I can do for them is give them the dhamma the rest is up to them.
It’s not easy for them or anybody else “kilesa” is strong. To get rid of them, you need to give it all you got.
( The younger generation leans toward uccheda ditthi)

The above category it’s not a fixed thing.

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