Sybe07 said:
Next to this existence, which is always changing, which is anicca, dukkha and anatta there is reality. Reality is the one that does not change, it is nicca, sukha and atta. It is called Nibbana, the unconditioned.This does not arise, not vanish and does not change in the meantime (AN3.47)
I agree and never had any confusion on this one. The moment there is un-conditioning it, then it is nibbana. Un-conditioning happens when the person stops attaching to panchakhandas as they arise and pass away and that is how nature works. Thus he loses attachment to raga, dvesha and moha which is part of khanda’s and there is no “I” or “mine” in that.
This is what I wanted to explain in my above post on what is “I” and why a person holds on (upadana) on it.
We are not the khandas and reality is udayavaya only and that is the message of Buddha and there is no doubt left for me in that way.
Not sure where I got misunderstood or confused you.