Tobi , thank you.
I would like to submit that what yash said, is profound , because then ,in that pure instant of “giving” he or she in ” giving” transcends his own self and conditioning.
I think , It opens open a door way to see the potentiality for ” purity” or”immensity” which anyone or everyone is capable of.
In such giving the psychological tomorrow ( upadana paccaya bhava) comes to an end and all “having” is recognized to be anicca,dukkha and anatta.
And bhavana is to tune back to this immensity( potentiality). In such ” jhana” the defilements get burnt. ( jhayati).
I therefore think tobi, that bhavana either it be in metta bhavana or mudita bhavana etc is more about tuning back to this potential and regaining it. This potential includes ” mudita” , “metta”,….etc and eventually nibbana.
In that tuning these deeds get done with effort like in the case of laymen like me, once tuned (magga phala commences) they flow. This is the flow or sota , perhaps,which all aspire to enter( sota panna). In that natural flow all order and discipline in ones life, flow seamlessly without the need for getting imposed from outside(silabatta paramasa).
Please add/ correct it toby. I tried to connect various lessons.regards.