[Ritesh2009]

Thank Lal sir and Tetsuo

I can completely relate to the methods mentioned by you both. After coming in contact with puredhamma site. I feel optimistic . I had attended a vipassana session in goenka ji tradition. I wouldnt say that it was completely useless, i was able to let go off my craving for alcohol after that. It pushed me to do more research to find answers to my questions. When one wants to find something they will eventually..

I am now able to observe some very subtle forms of greed, hate and ignorance because i like to contemplate about dhamma concepts and try to observe my thoughts as much as possible . Infact i sleep after reading a post and wake up reading one again :) 

I am now able to atleast recognise when  i am finding myself getting attached /desire to any sensory input. Sharing some examples from my daily life

I love when my teenage daughter spends time with me. I am sure anyone with teenage kids will know how hard it is .But now i am able to recognise my attachment to that feeling (vedana) when she is close to me  but i dont allow my mind to flow in that but be aware of its anicca nature

When i see people , i start observing that there is nothing to actually like about this body. Even while looking at a beautiful woman, i dont forcibly push my eyes away but try to see mindfully that her body is only an aggregation of parts like eyes, nose, ears, hair etc. we all are made of same substance. That male/female would have been my sister/father/mother/daughter in my previous life that actually helps to keep mind sane

I was able to reduce my cravings for good food once i understood food is a fuel nothing more than that . Now i observe my mind and body feelings when feeling like eating a tasty snack even though stomach is full. yes i am not perfect yet at it but atleast better than before :)

What i have understood is that be mindful of your thoughts, intentions as much as possible , look for those subtle ones too and that is meditation

What really astonishes me is the fact that an Arahant just sees in seeing, hears in hearing, etc that means our minds need so so so much of cleaning ( change of habits to attach to sensory inputs) plus absorption of anicca sanna like first nature of mind. That for sure requires loads of work EACH MOMENT. It will be fascinating to know the process behind on how they were able to get in that state of mind

I find myself lucky to find this site and since then have been enjoying my journey

 

[Ritesh2009]

Lal wrote:

I cannot recommend specific meditation techniques, because each person is different and needs to decide on that. General information is at:
“Bhāvanā (Meditation)“.

Regarding the second question, there has been a lengthy discussion at:
“Goenka´s Vipassana”
If you have a question specific to this particular technique, it is better to be asked there.

This topic was in the “General Forum” and I just moved it to this forum, where it should be.

@ Lal – would you like to share how you go about vipassana bhavana. Because for a beginner like me , some more clarity or some specific methods employed as in examples will help in great effect.  I read post on vipassana- buddhist meditation. you mentioned of two steps. can you please help in explaining how to practice to remove tendency to attach to distorted sanna

Thanks

[Ritesh2009]

I am very late to comment on this forum topic :) but would like to share my way of controlling sexual urges.

Mr Lal can guide us if this is called suppression or ok way to go about this kind of urge

1. I try as much as possible on continous basis (moment to moment)to contemplate the annica dukkha and anatta nature in everything around me including feelings, materialistic things.
2. I dont try to suppress (i think so)my feelings but try to observe them when it comes to looking at a beautiful women. Objectively dissecting my thoughts. a) like is it the hair , color, eyes, other body parts etc which is exciting my urge at the moment and that next moment i contemplate the A,D, A nature of those aspects also b) i contemplate that in my past life she would have been my mother, sister, daughter that in a way helps as well. c) Will it give me a pleasure which is ever lasting ? No . Then whats the point in pursuing those thoughts. 
3. Contemplate that we all are made from same rupa in a way 
4. Intercourse is just some moments of high pleasant sensations on the body

So in my view its beneficial sometimes to consciously look at what one considers the sensual object and observe within. One may have high urge toward opposite sex and that could be due to your habits from past lives. Important is we have come in contact with Buddha Dhamma. Anything change happens gradually

By the way no point in thinking of which stage we are at. Just enjoy the process without attachment

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