Hello Donna,
This is my experience; as to it being guidance,you make as much of that of it as you see fit, or better said, as much as you are capable of in a situation.
Only two weeks ago I stormed out before a family lunch had even started because an in-law raised his voice. Normally, I can take insults, but as soon as someone raises his/her voice, my automatic reaction is to put an end to it by walking away, not caring even to justify the words or actions that led that somebody to start shouting. Now walking away is not always possible, because a family member stood in my way at the front door, pleading for me to stay on. As calmly as I could, I kept repeating:’ I want to leave.Just let me leave’
Now that certainly is not the best way to handle such a situation; probably it is not even a good way. It may actually be a bad way. So, as to your concern that ‘I’m concerned that silent (you mean silence) may cause the niyata micca ditthi person to act out even more’ cannot arise in my case. But, to be honest, that is not my concern at all. I ADMIRE THAT IT IS YOURS, THOUGH. My only concern is to not let the matter aggravate by verbal exchanges. And THAT I cannot take. I had had more than my share of it with my ex-wife. Even when I see two strangers arguing, even if only on the phone, I just walk away from there. In my case, my ‘compassion for their current niyata views and state of being’ comes only later, when the incident is over and I am calm again.
Of course, in your case, you cannot walk away from the work place. I had done that too (!) when I was younger.. and was suspended. So, Donna, even if you find no ‘guidance’ in all I have said, you will at least know that one other at least shares your experience. I sincerely hope that the replies of others will provide you with the guidance you are looking for.
with Metta
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