Hi y not,
What you’re asking is, am I attached to my daughters. This is going to be hard for many to understand without a long discourse on the last three years of our lives. Without going into all the details, I’ve been unattached to my daughters for almost 1 1/2 years. I know it would be hard on the younger one b/c she is still attached even though I prepared them for my departure. I’ve been ready to leave this life, (either in body or a move to monastery) many times.
I don’t know if any of you have read about the lives of the Buddha’s female disciples, but there is a common theme…hardship, and I’m no exception. I think this is what Lal was pointing to about the differences between men and women. Women have to be dragged through the dirt in order to see the light/wisdom. There’s so much deep gati of dependence that seeing suffering in this world is just not there. I could be wrong here, but the women that have suffered the most are the wisest women I know.
With metta!