My experience and a question

Glad to hear you are making progress, Aniduan.

I think you have figured out the solution to your remaining problem: “I still get angry at work place when someone does a mistake and tries to blame me for that. My anger is causing vaci shankara(keep hating them in my mind) and kaya shankara(displaying anger at them using words)…”

You have understood vaci sankhara and kaya sankhara correctly.
– As long as one keeps generating conscious thoughts of anger (vaci sankhara) and expresses that with speech and bodily actions, it will be hard to control.
– This where the “effort” or “viriya” comes in.

Try to control anger at them, even if it is their fault that makes you angry.
– Try to reduce interactions with those who annoy you, if possible.

Also try to do mundane metta bhavana specifically towards them first (wishing them be happy, peaceful, and healthy). Picture them in your mind as you do that. It may be hard to do at first, but you may be pleasantly surprised in the long term.
– Then also do Ariya metta bhavana towards all beings. Think about the suffering of those beings in the lower realms (including the animal realm) and wish them to be released of such suffering.
– Another thing is to think about bad consequences of generating bad thoughts/speech/actions, AND the possible good consequences of being able to suppress them.

Think of it as reaping your own Kamma Vipāka for some unwholesome kamma you had done in the past. You could have done the same thing onto those colleagues in past lives. On the other hand, spread goodwill to them. Not because they deserve it. It’s just that we need to cultivate our good will. That is more important than anything else.

Hi Aniduan,

Just like Johnny mentioned all this is vipaka for previous kamma we have commited. One thero mentioned a good simili to overcome such situations. This has helped me immensly so I thought I should share it here.

The simili was of a postman delivering letters to us. When a postman delivers a letter we accept the letters without any hatred or attachment to the postman. For example, he may deliver a cheque with a bonus from our employer or a fine for speeding. We wouldn’t hug and throw a party for the postman if he delivers the bonus nor would we assault him if he delivers the fine. Why is is this? It is because we know that the bonus or the fine is something we deserve because of something we did before.

In the same way should try to treat everyone (those who treat us well or scold us) just like a postman, because all of them are only only delivering our bonuses (good vipaka) and fines (bad vipaka) that we rightfully deserve.

There is no other way to attain Nibbana or getting of anger, depression or any hindrances than those 2 things.

1) Anicca nature for permanent results
2) Satipatthana and Anapana to clearly contemplate point 1.

Why we get angry? Because thru anger we want to get what we want because we think it will make as happy if a person will be that way or situation of life we want to be will be like that we want. Those ideas are ridiculous if you really close to it. Thanks to Buddha Dhamma, Lal and other people that I can be free to the very big extent from a self-created drama by ignorance.

Being angry at someone is that you believe in ICCA in a personal relationship. Nobody will make you happy EVER and nothing will make you happy ever, paradoxically understanding this will make you into something beyond happiness and unhappiness. Is the same pattern, the same way, and one direction but manifestation of ignorance seems endless.

Remember to go gradually, do not worry that you are getting angry if you do not feel that you leap over into Sotapanna, you need to know how to root out every fetter and this is only known to Ariyas on at least Sotapanna level.

@Aniduan
They are blaming their faults on you, so it’s clear that they are lying(any misconduction of information). You should see they are committing dasa akusala in front of you, and inflicting lot of suffering on themselves in reality. Now, being blamed is only a kamma vipaka to you but lying is a new akusala kamma for them, which is going to bring much suffering for them. One’s you would have seen that it’s like a child infront of you is playing with a time bomb which has colorful buttons to attract the child, the obvious reaction would be to snatch that bomb or stop him from that; similarly for those people, maybe you cannot tell right away that you are going to suffer much due to this, and as you cannot say or do anything for their suffering, it’s obvious to feel pity and sad for them. Then, the only thing you could do is what Lal sir has suggested cultivating loving and kind thoughts for them. Now suppose that you didn’t snatched the time bomb from child right away because you thought it would make him cry, then once it will explode, you would be left with no option other than to take blame on yourself; similarly, you are only one maybe who can tell them about ten immoral acts( whenever you see a right time, just tell them casually about ten immoral acts divided into the one committed in mind, by speech and by action. Don’t worry, if the father of the child stopped you from taking the bomb away and asked you to leave them alone; if they didn’t listened, took interest or said something bad to you on the contrary, repeat the same contemplation, but this time you are no longer responsible in any way for their suffering, so there is no need to emphasize or tell them about morality again. But as they are causing suffering to themselves infront of you, you are bound to feel compassionate for them, when both father and child are sitting near the bomb unaware of the consequences; whenever you will see them, you will simply feel so sorry,sad and pity for them.

@Christian Your post is deep and needs to be contemplated after removing anicca ditti vipallasa, which Mr. Aniduan asked, by seeing what happened in reality first.

And you said about removing anicca sanna vipallasa which is, perceiving anything to be of nicca nature.

Lal Sir’s 3rd Desana on sanna vipallasa