Sybe:
Yes, please do. Looking forward.
Meanwhile I will follow the leads you have given..
For now I can only say that it looks to me that fear may have more to do with lobha (in a very subtle sense)than dosa, in the way of there being advantage, or happiness, or a ‘good return’ to oneself in ..” DOING the right thing. TELLING something which needs to be told. MAKING contact with somebody while that would be appropriate. MAKING that important step while you feel inside one needs to make that step.”
Because, the right thing for whom? That is, the right or good or beneficial results in the long term , for whom ?; for the other or for oneself? If one feels that the other will be all the better for it that that thing is not done, that contact is not made, that that important step is not taken… one feels this to be ultruism of the highest order….or, or.. could it be just an excuse to give ground to and thus justify that fear?
thank you
y not